Myths About Grief and Loss

Myths About Grief and Loss

•  The journey of grief and loss ends 
•  You move on or forward 
•  Moving forward or continuing to travel in your life means or equals  forgetting your person or your loss 
•  When struggling with grief and loss one must get over it 
•  You only have a certain amount of time you are allowed to grieve 
• There is an expiration date to your grief 
•  There is one way an only way to go through grief and loss 
•  There is a right way to grieve
•  The process or cycle of grief and loss is a checklist 
• The process or cycle of grief is linear 
• There are five stages of grief 
• It’s wrong to feel or experience certain emotions after grief or loss 
• You must go through grief and loss alone 
• Grief is or looks the same for everyone 
• All going through grief are impacted and effected the same way 
• We all grieve or experience grief and loss the same way 
• Grief is the same for each type of loss
• The first year of grief is the hardest 
• In coming to the end of the first year your grief journey it is done 
• Grief gets better or easier over time 
• All wounds are healed in or by time 
• The goal of grief is to find or have closure 
• There is one goal of grief 
• Loss and grief is only in times of death 
• Avoiding stops your grief, makes it better, or makes it disappear or no longer there
•  I am or this is a burden 
• Showing, facing , feeling, or experiencing the emotions of my grief and loss make it worse
• Talking about my grief makes grief worse 
• Seeking or getting help or going to counseling makes me weak 
• Self care is selfish and self centered
• If I had more faith or if my faith was stronger I wouldn’t be struggling with my grief and loss so much 
• Because I’m struggling I must be not strong enough 
• I will never be happy again or can’t have joy in my life 
• In living my life and finding or having happiness again I’m dishonoring my loved one 
• In living my life and finding joy again I have forgotten my loved one